unhappy couple facing opposite directions during counseling for infidelity

Infidelity Counseling for Couples

Rebuilding After Betrayal

You thought this could never happen to you. You were the couple everyone admired. Now you’re reeling from a betrayal that’s shattered everything. You want to stay—maybe—but you have no idea how.

When You’re Not Ready to Give Up—But You’re Not Sure How to Move Forward

  • You've discovered your spouse’s emotional or physical affair—maybe even with someone you know.

  • You’re asking questions you never imagined: Should we separate? Can I trust them again?

  • You still love each other. But right now, love doesn’t feel like enough.

Infidelity counseling is for couples who want to explore healing, even if they’re unsure where it will lead. It’s structured, honest, and compassionate work—focused on repair, not blame.

I provide infidelity counseling in California for couples navigating the emotional wreckage of affairs, secrecy, or sexual betrayal—whether you’re seeking restoration or just clarity about what comes next.

How Infidelity Counseling is Different from General Couples Therapy

Couple seeking therapy for betrayal with online Christian counselor in California

Why This Isn’t “Just” Couples Therapy

  • We begin with safety, boundaries, and clear expectations.

  • We work toward truth-telling and full disclosure—not surface-level repair.

  • I use trauma-informed approaches to help the betrayed partner regain stability and voice.

  • We address relational patterns after safety is re-established—not before.

  • You’ll each have space for individual work alongside joint sessions.

This isn’t about getting back to how things were. It’s about building something new—with honesty, dignity, and mutual responsibility.

What the Process Looks Like

Couple holding hands as therapist leads formal therapeutic disclosure for infidelity recovery

The Structure of Healing After Infidelity

  • Phase 1: Stabilization & Boundaries
    Affair termination, emotional containment, safety plans, early trust-building

  • Phase 2: Disclosure & Clarity
    A formal therapeutic disclosure process (takes 12+ weeks), including prep sessions, full disclosure, and response

  • Phase 3: Relationship Repair
    Working on communication, unmet needs, emotional attunement, and forgiveness

  • Phase 4: Meaning & Reconnection
    Exploring relationship vision, core values, and long-term safety

I blend tools from Gottman Method, Relational Life Therapy (RLT), and betrayal trauma frameworks (CSAT & APSATS-informed).

Healing from infidelity isn’t something you can wing. Couples often feel lost in the chaos of emotions, unsure what to do first—or how to even talk about what happened. That’s why a structured process matters. Through online affair recovery therapy, I guide couples step-by-step with a clear, compassionate approach that creates emotional safety, encourages accountability, and supports both partners through each phase of healing. You don’t have to figure this out on your own—we walk through it together.

How I Integrate Faith When Desired

Faith-Informed, Never Forced

Whether or not you identify as Christian, I use language like repentance, forgiveness, and reconciliation—because those words speak to the reality of what repair requires.

For couples seeking spiritual guidance, I offer Christian marriage counseling after infidelity that honors both biblical truth and emotional complexity. We talk honestly about what these words mean in real life—without pressure to rush the process. Faith can be a powerful anchor, even in the middle of heartbreak.

If faith is important to you, we can incorporate Scripture and spiritual discernment into your process. If not, this will still be a place where your dignity, values, and boundaries are fully respected.

If you're ready to stop spinning and start healing — even if you don’t know what that looks like yet — I’d be honored to help.