Honest therapy for hurting relationships
Compassionate, no-nonsense therapy for individuals and couples ready to do the work.
When You Feel Like You’re Carrying the Whole Marriage Alone
It’s late. The house is quiet, but your mind isn’t. You replay the day: the lunches packed, the work meetings, the clean laundry that’s been in that chair for 3 days, the full trash can that no one else noticed. It’s not one big thing that feels unbearable; it’s the constant weight of a thousand small ones.
You tell yourself not to resent it. You remind yourself that you both work hard, you’re both tired, and that they’re not trying to hurt you. But when you step back and look at it, you realize how much of the weight you’ve been holding alone.
You didn’t sign up to be the family’s project manager. You wanted a marriage that felt like a partnership, a place where you could lean on each other. Instead, it feels like you’re the director (and stage manager, costume designer, and concessions) of the Our Family play, and the laughter, tenderness, and ease have disappeared.
You Miss Your Partner, but You Also Miss Yourself
You remember when you could talk about anything, when affection came easily, when “we” still felt like a real thing. Now it’s different. You’re careful with your words, tired of feeling like the “nag,” exhausted by conversations that go nowhere.
You’re not angry; you’re exhausted and lonely. You don’t want to keep being the one who keeps everything running while feeling unseen. You want to be known again. You want to stop feeling invisible.
I’m Here to Help You Rebuild the “Us” in Your Relationship
Hi, I’m Heather Seguin, a couples therapist in Murrieta, CA and I help high-functioning Millennial and Gen X couples who are successful in most areas of life but feel disconnected at home. You’ve read the books, tried the podcasts, maybe even gone to therapy before, but nothing has reached the heart of what’s wrong.
You’re not looking for quick fixes or surface-level communication tips. You want to rebuild the foundation of your marriage so it can be a steady, loving place again.
How We’ll Work Together
I start by helping you see the patterns that keep you stuck—the same cycles of criticism, withdrawal, and resentment that feel impossible to change. Then I’ll teach you evidence-based skills that actually work.
Unlike therapists who stay neutral at all costs, I’m both fair and direct. I tell the truth with compassion and help both partners take ownership of how they’re showing up. Together, we uncover what’s really happening underneath the tension so you can start to rebuild with clarity, respect, and courage.
Through this work, you’ll learn how to:
Communicate your needs without blame or defensiveness
Repair after conflict instead of avoiding it
Replace resentment with curiosity and care
Reconnect emotionally, physically, and relationally
What Change Feels Like
Couples who begin this process often notice subtle shifts first: a calmer tone, a willingness to listen, moments of laughter. Over time, those moments grow into new patterns.
You start to feel like partners again instead of adversaries. The constant tension softens. You learn to give each other grace and to celebrate small wins. You rebuild trust not through perfection, but through honest effort.
You move from exhaustion to understanding, from feeling invisible to feeling seen and loved again.
Life After Couples Therapy
You’re able to ask for what you want without fearing rejection. You can be heard without having a meltdown. You can navigate hard moments without losing connection, and you can share the daily load with more ease and respect.
Your home begins to feel lighter. There’s joy again. There’s room for affection, for gratitude, for “us.”
That’s what relational recovery looks like—a marriage where both of you feel settled, known, and valued.
Let’s Begin
You don’t need another article, book, or late-night argument to figure this out alone. What you need is a space where the truth can be named and the path forward becomes clear.
In our work together, I’ll help you both see what’s keeping you stuck and what’s required to change it. My role isn’t to mediate—it’s to help you face the reality of your patterns, take ownership, and learn how to reconnect with courage and respect.
If that kind of work resonates with you, let’s talk.
I help high-functioning Millennial and Gen X couples move from disconnection and resentment to closeness and mutual respect through direct, compassionate, and practical couples therapy in Murrieta, CA.
How did working with Heather help you?
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I’m not a therapist who sits back quietly while you stay stuck. I’ll tell you the truth—with compassion and clarity—and help you move toward real healing. Whether you're here because of betrayal, shutdown, or disconnection, you’re not alone. You’re in the right place.